Block em, b*tch
You do not need thousands of followers to be a social media influencer. We are all influencers. When you post on social media, you are mass-informing your following of your whereabouts. Stories and posts keep everyone in the know. When we do find a romantic connection, we immerse ourselves in the other person’s every (electronic) medium: text, Facebook, Instagram, etc. We spend our days tagging each other in memes and exchanging 10-second snaps. What happens when you stop seeing each other? Is it ok to remove someone from the digital realm? The answer is YES. Your social media is your domain. If you have a positive relationship with a person, you will gain pleasure in watching their selectively happy posts. If someone is poisoning your page, you have the power to push them right the fuck out.
When you feel unsettled about a person it is best to unfollow them and their toxicity. This can be misconstrued as immature, but it’s emancipating. Stop seeing stuff that makes you suffer! Blocking, or removing, someone who no longer serves you is healthy. Limiting unwanted users gives you control over what content shows up in your online space. Don’t torture yourself by relying on social media to relay facts (or, curated content) about another person’s life. This applies to everyone, no matter the nature of your relationship, be it relatives, friends, or lovers. If someone wants you to be part of their world, they will try and make things right, or have an open conversation. Also, social media is the lowest form of communication there is IMO, so if someone has something truly important to say, it will happen offline.
Spotty and elusive people do not deserve to come and go as they please. People that don’t prioritize you should not be privy to all your personal info. Instead, let them wonder. Let them realize they screwed up, because when they come back around — and they always always do — you’ll be better off.
2019 vibes: Make a conscious decision to learn. Break a toxic pattern of going back to the same person for comfort and guaranteed (great, hopefully, or why would you keep them around) sex. Silence speaks volumes as to how you feel deep down. Emotions provide information, so listen to the voice inside your head that is telling you “this doesn’t feel good.” Remember, setting boundaries is not only important but imperative. So, set a standard for yourself and uphold it. No exceptions.